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Monday, March 2, 2015

12:29PM - Hello! Who's out there??

Hi folks!  I was surprised though not distressed to see that I've been "added as a maintainer" of this community.  I'm curious:  Is anyone actually HERE anymore?? The last thing on the page was something I posted, about 18 months ago.  What's up for everyone?  Do you want to have conversations here?

In the meantime, I'm doing a Spring Spa Day at my place this coming Sunday March 8th:
Not poly-specific, but poly folk are welcome as always!

And then on March 31, I'm presenting a workshop on the 5 Love Languages (with special attention to their use in Multiple Relationships):
If more than one of you wishes to attend and registers together, I'll create a group rate for you!  Give me a call to work it out:  510-686-3386

Hope all here are well!


Current mood: curious

Sunday, October 27, 2013

4:30PM - Swim & Fright Night @ EBPP/DG 10/30 - Oakland

Hi poly, open, and poly-friendly folks!

The next East Bay Poly Potluck and Discussion Group will happen THIS Wednesday October 30th, at Ann G's in Oakland!
GET DIRECTIONS & RSVP on the Google Spreadsheet:

!!! Weather permitting, Ann's POOL WILL BE OPEN! (please bring your own towel and a $5-10 donation if you intend to swim.) !!!

(You don't have to live in the East Bay to attend. The East Bay is where we HOLD this event!)

Doors open: 5:00 for potluck and SWIMMING!
Short discussion at 7:30pm
Clean up begins: 9:30pm
Doors close: 10pm

Come join us for casual conversation, a delicious potluck dinner (ovo-lacto-pescatarian!--NO MEAT or CHICKEN!), and a pleasant evening with like-minded people. Polyamorous, poly-curious, and poly-friendly folks of all persuasions are welcome. (Kids are welcome, with adult supervision.)

Discussion topic:
Boo!  What's SCARY in your poly/open relationships?  How do you deal with these feelings? Related topic: What MASKS do you wear, and how do they protect you, help you, or hinder you?  In former times in Ireland and Britain, the custom of placing candles in carved turnips (later, pumpkins) got started as part of the rituals to try to scare away ghosts and evil spirits at this time, the thinning of the veils between the worlds. Through our gathering and our sharing of wisdom, let's light some metaphorical candles against the dark side of multiple relationships! (Real carved pumpkins and candles ok with permission from our gracious hostess, Ann :)  Bonus points for "polyamorous pumpkins"!)

[NOTE:  One thing many people find scary in poly/open relationships is JEALOUSY.  If that's a feeling that turns you a ghoulish green, you might want to sign up to get the recording of Dawn Davidson and Kathy Labriola's 3rd and final FREE teleseminar on Jealousy! https://di986.infusionsoft.com/app/form/jfa3-options-call-signup]

THERE WILL BE SWIMMING!  Ann has generously offered to open her pool from 5:00pm to 7:30pm. If you intend to swim, please bring your own towel, and if you can, a donation of $5-10 to offset pool heating costs (which are greater at this late time of the year -- please help to support our hostess being able to offer this again!). Pool is "clothing optional".  Kids MAY be present (check with hostess first about bringing kids).

CAN YOU HELP with setup or cleanup?  Please write to AnnG if you can help out with setup (4:30 or 5pm) or cleanup (from 9:30 to 10pm): Ann Glucroft <annglucroft@gmail.com>

The tradition of this potluck/discussion is to RSVP, including the names of all guests. Directions are LINKED TO FROM the RSVP page. It's held in a private home, and that way we know who's coming; it's a safety and no-surprises thing. RSVP on the Google Doc: http://bit.ly/1fn6MsM. If you have difficulty updating the spreadsheet (Internet Explorer may fail), send an email to: eastbaypolydiscussion (at) gmail (dot) com, and we'll add your name to the list.

East Bay Poly Potluck also has a Yahoo group for discussion and announcements of interest to the East Bay poly community. If you're interested in joining, the web address is:


Looking forward to seeing folks again soon!

Dawn (Facilitator) & Ann (hostess)


*This location is NOT close to BART. Nearest station is Rockridge or Ashby. We
prefer that you try to carpool. Please indicate on the spreadsheet if
you need a ride or can offer a ride. We may be able to arrange a BART
pickup if necessary.

*There is street parking but Hiller Dr. is a very steep street. There
is also space for 2 cars in the driveway.

*This is a lacto-ovo pescatarian household; Fish, seafood, eggs and dairy are OK; poultry, pork and other red meat are not. Also, no Bell Peppers please, as our hostess is allergic. Please plan your potluck contributions accordingly!

*Start time is relaxed, but please try to arrive in time to be settled
in time for the discussion, if possible. We will try to start the discussion at 7:30pm.

[For swimming: Bring your own towel if you wish to swim!  (And take it home with you. ;) $5-10 donation for pool heating is appreciated.]

*KIDS: Are allowed, with parental/guardian supervision. Please check with the hostess before bringing any kids: Ann Glucroft <annglucroft@gmail.com>

*Multiple cats are in residence!

*Scent free please!

*Please do not attend if you have a cold or anything contagious, thanks!

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
Dawn Davidson

3rd FREE Jealousy Teleseminar! Get the recording! http://bit.ly/1bschBN
Get my KISSable Agreements Workbook (beta edition) for only $10!

I affirm that all is proceeding as it should, unfolding right now in the perfect way. I send my love and gratitude out into the world, and I affirm that all is well, and will be well, where Love prevails. So mote it be.

Monday, October 14, 2013

3:26PM - Two FREE Teleseminars, 10/17 and 10/21

Hi folks!

I wanted to let you know of the upcoming FREE webinars available on Thursday 10/17 at 6pm Pacific, and on Monday 10/21 at 5:45pm Pacific.

First up is one that I'm not directly involved in, but should be very interesting:

Curious about the polyamory community? Want some information about their attitudes about legal multi-partner marriage and their reports on their health and happiness as compared to the U.S. population as a whole? Attend this free webinar on the results of the largest survey ever conducted (N=4062) of self-identified polyamorous individuals, being presented on October 17 at 9 pm EDT by co-investigators Jim Fleckenstein and Darrell Cox, II. You can register for the free webinar, hosted by the research’s sponsor, Loving More, here: http://tinyurl.com/pgtmv27
The one next Monday October 21st, at 5:45pm Pacific time, is the third and FINAL call I'm doing on the topic of Jealousy, with Kathy Labriola:


The call includes: Another great Hypnotic Relaxation Exercise; Envy vs Coveting vs Jealousy; The Engineering Model and the Phobia Model: Two Key Approaches for Managing Jealousy; A step-by-step process to re-evaluate your beliefs and fears... and get back on top of your jealousy!; and time for more interactive discussion!
Miss either of the first two calls?  Then you might want to listen on the web, and/or sign up to get the downloadable materials:
Hope you enjoy the calls!
<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
Dawn Davidson
3rd FREE Jealousy Teleseminar! 10/21, 5:45pm Pacific http://bit.ly/1bschBN
Get my KISSable Agreements Workbook (beta edition) for only $10!

I affirm that all is proceeding as it should, unfolding right now in the perfect way. I send my love and gratitude out into the world, and I affirm that all is well, and will be well, where Love prevails. So mote it be.

Thursday, June 6, 2013

6:24PM - Get into hot water with me! (at the Poly Pool Party 6/15/13)

Hi all you poly, open, and non-monogamous folks!

The Poly Pool Party is Next Saturday, June 15th, in the East Bay!

Get more details by signing on to our Google Group : http://groups.google.com/group/weirdness-events/subscribe
Or send me an e-mail, and I'll send the full invite. New folks welcome; space is limited!

Direx & RSVP instructions in FAQ:

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EXTENDED FAMILY-FRIENDLY AND CLOTHES-ON HOURS! Are you more comfortable in a clothes-on environment? Since it's close to the Solstice, clothing optional won't begin till about 9pm -- that's two whole hours of socializing and suits-on swimming for both kids and adults! Sweet!

Lots more info below...

Hope to see YOU here next weekend!


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Dawn Davidson, Love Outside The Box Coaching:


Because Love is ALWAYS OK!

Saturday, November 24, 2012

12:11AM - Room for Rent in Hayward

Room for rent in spacious beautiful 5-bedroom house in Hayward. All Utilities included, PG&E, water, cable and internet. Shared kitchen, laundry and bathrooms. Vaulted ceilings in the shared space, fireplace, and a nice patio out back. Located in a quiet, diverse and clean neighborhood. Close to public transportation, Hwy 880, CAL State East Bay and Chabot College. Half mile from South Hayward BART.

Shared with mixed gender household (maximum 5 full-time and one part-time). Potential roommates must be accepting of alternative gender-sexuality (GLBT, poly & kink) and religions (Pagan). Should also be able to accept our two cats as part of the household. (Lease does not allow additional pets.) We are bi/poly/pagan/alt-friendly. We run an online business from home, so the two primary residents are home much of the time. In addition, friends, co-workers and community members visit regularly and we occasionally host semi-public events.

We are looking for people who are responsible, friendly, clean up after themselves and pay rent on time. Full time job or other stable support preferred. College student or working professional fine. No smoke or incense. One member of the house is disabled and has severe allergies to smoke & other heavy scents, as well as being sensitive to loud noise.

Room is 10 X 10 downstairs room with window facing back patio and closet (available now). Downstairs with bathroom next to room.

Rent is $700 (including share of utilities - gas, electric, garbage, water, wifi) for one person per room. Cable TV in shared space, but cable in room would be extra. Current residents share food and meals, but that would be additional and negotiable. First and last month rent + $500 security deposit. References required. Room is currently available.

Only serious renters need inquire, contact: Dany at purplerabbit13 at gmail dot com

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

8:15PM - Get into more hot water! Poly Pool Party THIS Sat August 25th

Hi Bay Area local poly friends!

Are you ready to get naked, warm, and wet with a bunch of other
like-minded people? Yeah, me too!  Good thing I have a pool so I can
satisfy lots of you all at the same time. :^)

Poly Pool Party Saturday August 25

Setup starts at 4pm
Regular Party begins at 7pm
Family-friendly till 8pm!
Clothing optional about 8:30pm
Ends @ 12 midnight!

The PPP is for people who are polyamorous, open, ethically
non-monogamous, poly-friendly and/or interested in any of these. It’s
a potluck, with a cash donation requested for pool heating:
http://bit.ly/kjbznI .

Get more details by signing on to our Google Group :
Or send me an e-mail, and I'll send the full invite. New folks
welcome; space is limited!

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
Dawn Davidson, Love Outside The Box Coaching
* Got Jealousy?? Get Help! Free Jealousy Diagnostic Tool! http://bit.ly/LS6HQW

“I would sooner go to hell for love than heaven for hate” - Judy
Dixon, Vancouver

Thursday, June 28, 2012

5:30PM - It's Showtime for Polyamory!

There's a new reality TV show coming out on Showtime the follows a polyamorous family in San Diego.  You can read more at my Uncharted Love blog: http://blog.unchartedlove.com/?p=1478

Don't want to leave LJ? You can read it in my Uncharted Love LJ feed instead: http://uncharted-love.livejournal.com/23915.html


Sunday, October 2, 2011

4:44PM - Poly Pool Party Sat 10/15!

Hi  everyone:

You ready to get naked, warm, and wet with a bunch of other poly people? Yeah, me too!  Good thing I have a pool so I can satisfy lots of you all at the same time. :^)

Setup starts at 4pm
Family-friendly *during setup ONLY* this time
Regular Party begins at 7pm
Clothing optional *right at 7pm*
Ends @ 12 midnight!

Interested? Send RSVPs to akienm (at) gmail[dot]com

+++ PLEASE read the FAQ: http://bit.ly/oVjQra +++

"I definitely want to go to this event-I'm so excited!!!!" -- Pool Party RSVP

If you're interested, you can get details by signing  on to our Google Group :

Or send me an e-mail, and I'll send you the full invite. We love to have new folks attend, but our space is limited, so we do require RSVPs. (We'd also like you to read the FAQ, please! The usual one is [still] down, but here's a text-only version on Google docs:
http://bit.ly/oVjQra or if the bit.ly forwarding is giving you trouble, here's the full link:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/12utzOBaTftvvuiIg3-rov4b9ci9-vMVcjl1Ru51fSYA/edit?hl=en_US )

FYI: The Weirdness Events Google Group is a very occasional and relatively low-traffic list for announcing our Poly Pool Parties (PPPs) and other events that we host here at our home and/or are involved in putting on. In general these events are local to the SF Bay Area, but occasionally we announce things that we're doing elsewhere in the country or online.

WELCOMING OF ALL: Please note that our parties are welcoming to people of all sizes, genders, ethnicities, sexual orientations, backgrounds, spiritual beliefs, political thoughts, etc. Guests are expected to behave in a manner that is courteous, respectful, and accepting of this diversity. (It's perfectly ok to have personal preferences, of course, as long as those preferences don't interfere with your ability to behave courteously towards others at the party.) If you have any questions about this policy, or about any other issues pertaining to our party, please feel free to contact us privately.

Are you so excited that you're ready to donate right now via PayPal?  Here's how! (BTW: Do us both a favor and choose PERSONAL when you donate, and neither you nor we will lose money on PayPal Fees. Thanks!!)
Paypal address: akienm[at]gmail(dot)com, if the button isn't working

Looking forward to seeing some of you very soon!

Best wishes,


<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
Dawn Davidson, Love Outside The Box Coaching
* Agreements Workbook entries start here! http://bit.ly/o6uX1L
* http://www.facebook.com/LoveOTB
* http://www.blog.unchartedlove.com
* Questions? email me at unchartedlove@gmail.com

"The opposite of war isn't peace; it's creation" -- Mark, in "La Vie Boheme" from Rent

“I would sooner go to hell for love than heaven for hate” - Judy Dixon, Vancouver

I affirm that all is proceeding as it should, unfolding right now in the perfect way. I send my love and gratitude out into the world, and I affirm that all is well, and will be well, where Love prevails. So mote it be.

Thursday, August 11, 2011

1:09PM - About [kid- and family-friendly] poly events: An Open Letter

Dear poly friends, parents, kids, and others:

I have, over the past 12 months or so, especially, heard complaints
about the lack of accommodation for parents (or other specific groups)
at the East Bay Poly Potlucks. I also have received concerns about
the proposal to combine the potlucks with the discussion groups, and
concern over this issue is one of the points raised. I'd like to
clarify some things.

1) No policy decisions have been made with regard to the presence or
absence of children at the September potluck/discussion group. You are
all free to register your thoughts and concerns here (about the kid
issue, or any issue of concern to you). In fact, I'd prefer we
discuss it here on the EBPP yahoo group, because that's what this list
is for--to discuss.

2) The admin team has been struggling to provide locations for both
potlucks and discussion groups for some time now. Kid-friendly
locations have been particularly difficult to find. It's not that we
haven't looked, but locations that meet all of our criteria (e.g.,
close to public transit, kid-friendly, reasonably accessible for those
of limited mobility, etc) have been very hard to find. Sometimes we
sacrifice one or more of our criteria, in order to meet most of them.
We're not happy about it, but this is what has been necessary to
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8) Lastly, as Oberon Zell says, "If you don't want it, you can't have
any!" Don't like our events for some reason? There's probably someone
else out there doing something you'll like better. Please don't just
complain about what WE'RE doing--Go find something that actually meets
your needs! I just checked, and there are 11 meetup groups in the SF
Bay Area that are about or mention polyamory. That's just meetup!
There's lots out there, if you look. You can start with Pepper's
google calendar: http://www.pepperminty.com/sfbay-poly-calendar.html.
Gypsy also has a conglomerate calendar on meetup:

Thanks for listening, folks.

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
* PPP August 13! http://bit.ly/oVjQra Read more...Collapse )

Monday, June 13, 2011

10:01PM - East Bay Poly Discussion Group TOMORROW 6/14, Oakland

Hi all:

Sorry for the late invite/reminder!

East Bay Poly Discussion Group -- Tues 6/14
RSVP: http://bit.ly/kRzaQr
Doors open at 6:45 and discussion starts at 7:15
Potluck SNACKS only
Details below

ADMIN WANTED: Greg DeMasi has been maintaining this email list/yahoo
group for a couple of years, and he'd like to turn the task over to
someone else. He's also been making arrangements for the EBPPs, as
well as usually being the one to announce the EBPDGs, and to find
suitable locations and facilitators as needed. If you might be
willing to take on some or all of these tasks, Greg would like to
speak with you. Please contact him at: "Greg DeMasi"

EBPP: The East Bay Poly Potluck is scheduled for NEXT Tuesday 6/21.
Is there a volunteer to host? If so, please contact Greg ASAP (cc me
just in case)

Hope some of you can make it tomorrow!

Dawn (on behalf of Akien)
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Friday, June 3, 2011

1:25AM - Say YES to short hair!

Always wanted to go short? I just started a site with pictures of pixie cuts, celebs with pixies and a guide to going short!

Drop by and take a look!
Cute Pixie Haircuts

Also, if you've ever wanted a blonde pixie, don't forget my other site:
Bleached Blonde

Saturday, May 28, 2011

6:28PM - YES!! the PPP is *ON* rain or no rain!

YES! The Pool Party is still ON, despite the rain! Come anyway! How much wetter can you get? Don't like rain on your head? Wear a hat! We've got a cover up over the food area, and one over the grill. But it isn't a party without YOU! http://groups.google.com/group/weirdness-events

1:40AM - PPP *today* 5/28; Tyra Banks poly ep 6/3; EBPDG 6/14

Hi folks!

Several events happening around here in the next couple of weeks. Hope to see you at one or more! Read more about each of these below.

1) Poly Pool Party is *today* SAT 5/28!

2) Poly House Party Weekend: Media Night! In San Leandro, starting at 7:30pm on Friday 6/3. http://bit.ly/iW1pTD

3) East Bay Poly Discussion Group -- Tues 6/14

-->Would you like to host?

-->Do you have a request for discussion topics this time?

Hope to see some of you very soon!

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Monday, May 9, 2011

10:28PM - TOMORROW 5/9, 7-9:30pm, FISHBOWL GAMES @EBPDisc. Grp in Oakland

For those who don't read the East Bay Poly Potluck Yahoo group, here is the announcement about this month's East Bay Poly Discussion Group, happening Tues 5/10 (doors open 6:45 and discussion starts 7:15) at at private home near Tunnel Rd/Hwy 13/Hwy 24. The address is ON THE RSVP PAGE (see below). Please let me know ASAP if you are having any trouble seeing the RSVP page.

Jay Wiseman will lead us in FISHBOWL GAMES this Tuesday (thanks, Jay!!). See the bottom of this message for a repeat of his description of what those are.

Hope to see some of you on Tuesday, if not before!

Dawn (EBPDG coordinator) & Greg (EBPP list-mom)

PS: We're happy to take volunteers to host future events, as well as suggestions for future topics....
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Wednesday, March 2, 2011


Our baby is due in a week or two.
I caught up on the blog here: http://familyvalues.dreamwidth.org/11941.html
I'm nervous and not, totally excited but somewhat mellow about it, busy and tired already, and just overwhelmingly happy. My life is really beyond my wildest dreams.

Friday, February 4, 2011


I've specifically asked for advice related to poly family "coming out" on this post

If you have advice for me, please leave it there or here and there (just for keeping a conversation in one place for following), but here just if you can't post there, thanks. And if you want to share that or link it anywhere else that people have a clue about such things, that would be fine.


Monday, January 24, 2011


I am excited and wanted to share with other poly people what's going on in our poly lives (though some of you knew already): baby!

Thursday, November 11, 2010

7:00PM - Santa Cruz Loving More Potluck and Discussion Group, 11/11/2010, 7:00 pm

Informal discussion on concerns/issues involved in polyamorous
relationships. Feel free to bring your problems, solutions, friends,
lovers, family, and some food.

Thursday, Nov 11, 2010
Potluck starts at 7:00 PM
Please bring a dish to share
We have plates, plastic ware, cups and water

A core dozen or so show up pretty regularly. Our meetings are usually
ten people or more. We have a private space so discussion's on just
about anything. We start with food, getting to know each other, and
catching up. Some topic normally pops up and off we go! We always have a
hard time leaving by 9.

The Diversity Center's next to a public parking lot. It's a welcoming
space, including a kitchen with microwave, a great yard out back...stop
on by!

2nd Thursday of each month
Diversity Center
7:00 to 9:00 pm
1117 Soquel Avenue, Santa Cruz, CA
between Seabright and Branciforte
There is a map link on the site at:

There is a public parking lot next door to the Center. They have a nice
meeting space and a small kitchen with microwave.

More info - email -terrilynn@goldway.com

Current mood: hopeful

Thursday, November 4, 2010

9:11PM - Purpose

 I am going out on a limb here, but a quick glance at the top dozen or so posts makes one think this community's sole purpose is to be a calendar.  Do the members share Q & A or do anything else?

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

7:39AM - Simultaneous Lovin, Santa Cruz, Wed 10/13; other poly workshops

Hi poly and poly-curious friends:

In the next few weeks I'm doing several workshops for those interested in polyamory/ethical non-monogamy/open relationships, and I thought that some here might want to know. Feel free to contact me for more info on any of these, and to forward to interested people or lists.

1) East Bay Poly Discussion Group, Tuesday 10/12, Read more...Collapse )

2) Simultaneous Lovin'--An Intro to Polyamory, Wednesday 10/13 at Pure Pleasure in Santa Cruz. Read more...Collapse )

3) "Wandering Hearts: Long Distance (Poly) Relationships", at Poly Living West, 10/22-24, Seattle WA. Concert--Bone Poets Orchestra (formerly Gaia Consort); Keynote--Dossie Easton (Ethical Slut co-author); Special Guest--Christopher Ryan (Sex At Dawn co-author). NOTE: Daypasses and "Nights-only" options Read more...Collapse )

4) Creating Empowering Relationship Agreements, Tuesday 10/26 at the Sharma Center in Seattle WA. Read more...Collapse )

Hope to see some of you here, Santa Cruz, or Seattle!!

PS: BONUS appearance at Marcia Baczynski's Creating Sustainable Open Relationships workshop series, Sat Dec. 4, 2010. Read more...Collapse )

Current mood: sleepy

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